Postnatal depression, or postpartum depression, is more common than you may realise. What is important is to understand what it is, the signs and symptoms and what you can do. Here is an awesome Podcast I did with Psychologist Rebecca Black on PND.
Podcast duration: 33:32
Listen to this incredible Podcast as we interview Rebecca on all things Postnatal Depression to help new mothers around the world.
Postnatal depression and anxiety can be of all levels (mild, moderate or severe).
And symptoms can begin anywhere from suddenly after birth or appear gradually in the weeks or months during the first year after birth.
There are a range of symptoms including feeling constantly sad, crying and feeling low.
The statistics differ, but up to one in seven new mothers experience postnatal depression and if you include postnatal anxiety, it's up to one in four new mothers that are affected.
Even people who have not been affected by mental health can be affected, PND does not discriminate.
To anyone reading this who is about to visit a new family with a newborn, think about the parents, not just the baby.
It's an overwhelming time for all new parents, and a big adjustment. Be mindful of the comments you are making and ensure there is no pressure or encouragement of 'mum-guilt.'
No one is perfect and everyone needs support.
The baby blues are completely normal to feel emotional in the week after having your baby, but if these feelings persist for two weeks or more, seeking advice to help you can help.
The 'job' of being a mother is not always enjoyable, there are many aspects of being a mother that are not enjoyable, and remember that you don't have to love it all the time.
Feeling of isolation and loneliness is common in new mothers, especially those suffering from postnatal depression.
If you have anxiety going to a mother group or a library could be too much. But taking small steps that don't overwhelm you.
Even if your mind is telling you to stay inside in bed, getting out is going to help you.
Everyone is different, but it's important to find a group that you connect with. Mothers Groups can be positive environments.
Knowing that the other women will appreciate it if you introduce yourself.
Put your phone away.
We often use our phone to disengage, but putting your phone away you are opening your opportunities to connect.
1. Online communities
3. Other groups that online with you.
*All women pregnant women and new mothers are welcome to join our beautiful online community through PregActive community to connect to other women going through what you are going through.
Feelings of anxiety can happen in pregnancy too, if this happens certainly reach out for help.
Men become fathers at the same moment women become mothers. Postnatal depression can affect men too and important for men to also acknowledge it and linking in with support.
Watch out for the red flags or warning signs and watch out for feelings of struggling to find joy and struggling to get out of bed.
So many women feel like they want to do it all themselves.
Look after the baby so you can go for a walk or sleep.
I need these five items from the shops.
Being direct with what you need.
Or write a list, leave it on the fridge and when someone comes over you can direct them to it.
Be strong, and say yes. It's not a weakness to say yes to help.
It might be a little bit uncomfortable, but it will become easier.